As I already mentioned these installments might not flow nicely from one to the other because they are in no way written already. That being said I will try to just say it (and I just got my title).
Imagine going out for supper with friends and it is time to choose the destination. Now there are at least two lessons to learn from this scenario that many people have experienced. To be pleasant one must remember that nothing ever is about ME. Yet often people assume that this means that they should not even voice an opinion because they might come across as pushy. Yet that is ultimately frustrating to everyone else, and this is where the balancing act comes back.
What is trying to be said is that people want to know how you feel, even if that is not the decision that is chosen. Which brings up the other lesson, once you have stated your opinion and it has been heard it doesn't have to be the one that is chosen. Just say it clearly and be willing to go with somebody else's choice. People generally appreciate to know how you are feeling and want input but demanding your own way is also not all that pleasant. Keep in mind there might be situations that include things like life or death where demanding to use an idea would be necessary.
The final lesson here remains for those who do not struggle with being indecisive. Please understand that it is only pleasant to ask questions that you actually want the answers to. Be specific because it is not enjoyable to be shot down every time. A lot of trouble can be saved if those who are more decisive in certain areas leave fewer choices for those who are not. Even if the decisive really do want to do what the rest of the group wants to do. The best way to encourage people to share their opinions and feelings is to agree with them when they do, and with practice somebody can set themselves up for success by properly presenting the questions.
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